Couples Counseling

"It's never about the dishes."

It's also not — only — about communication skills. The three most common areas where couples are challenged: Money, Power, and Sex. As we dig deeper, we find that behind these struggles we run into our own egos and personalities — that way of living our life that we've fought and forged since we were kids and which we strongly identify with. That's just who I am! Or is it? What lives behind that?

Traditional marriage achieved stability through function: each partner doing prescribed societal roles. Romantic marriage sought to bring forward the heart, feelings, and the power of choosing our partners — once and again. Yet it is only recently in our modern history, where gender equality, diversity, and egalitarian values have become present, that we can forge a new type of relationship.

My approach to couples counseling is one of psycho-spiritual growth. I invite each of you to embark on the journey of forging a deep conscious relationship. I believe that behind the dishes, money, power, sex, and even our own egos lies something deeper and unique. In relationship we have the rare opportunity to bring this forward — healing our wounded hearts, opening up to our vulnerabilities, and treading a common path from that place.

I work with straight, LGBTQ+, and intercultural couples. In our sessions I will hold many roles: mediator, translator, referee, common enemy, common friend, confidant, and guide. Wherever you are on your path — exploring, joyous, or heartbroken — I invite you both to work together with me.

— Sebastian Beca, LMFT